We spoke with one of our agents in Florida last night. She shared a lot of insight into open adoption. Since this agent's children are adopted through the process of open adoption, we feel as though we have a little better understanding of the different degrees of openness with adoption and what open adoption might entail.
We have always felt the utmost respect for women and couples who decide to pursue adoption for their child. We understand that this decision is not made lightly and that most parents who place their children for adoption are doing so out of a fierce love for their little ones.
We have always said we would share as many pictures, letters, and e-mails with our child's parents as they would like to receive. Speaking with the adoption agent only strengthened our decision to share this type of information with the birth parents if this is what they would prefer. We know that birth parents will want, and need, to know that their child is loved and is happy and healthy. We also imagine that our little one will have many questions about his or her birth mother and father. We want to be able to answer those questions, if and when they arise, and this can be done if there is an open line of communication between us and the birth parents.
We are so grateful that our agent spoke so freely with us about her experiences with open adoption. We continue to pray that God will lead us to the woman or couple who we are meant to be matched with, thereby leading us to the child we are meant to parent.
We know that one day, our dream will come true and we'll bring our little one home. One day, all of the pain of infertility will be just a distant memory. We have faith in God and in His timing. He has a plan for our lives, and we feel in our hearts that part of His plan for us is to allow us the privilege of parenting and loving a little one.
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